Rebuilding trust

The fact that you have identified it was something stupid to do on your part.... shows youre serious about this.

The fact that youre partner is willing to give you a chance ...shows the same.

Get to the root of the matter . What brought you two distanced ? What are the things overwhelming both of you? How can you deal with feeling drained?

Sometimes a third person - a mediator or a counselor - can also help bridge the gap by problem solving on the issues. Seeking help is positive .... sometimes our minds cant find the answers because we are so burnt out but another person can see them without difficulty

@TWardUK38582

@TWardUK38582   I’m on the other side of this issue currently which is what has lead me here.  What I would appreciate would be anything to help rebuild my self esteem because it does horrible damage to someone’s self esteem, reassurance about commitment to fixing issues and to being with each other if that’s what you want.  Hugs, kind words, being okay with discussing the issue, not in a bashing sort of way but allowing the other person to talk through it all and not becoming defensive.  Acknowledging and accepting each other, including flaws, while making sure that the other knows you want to move past all of this into something stronger, better.  It takes time and effort on both parts but I know that the hurt person needs an unbelievable amount of love right now.  We all make mistakes and acknowledging them as you have I think is very good.  Don’t drown in self loathing as that doesn’t help at all.  Accept you are human and show love and kindness to your partner and yourself.  Hope this helps.  I’m currently fighting my anger and hurt and trying hard not to make what happened an indictment of just not being good enough, maybe your partner is too.  Work on your communication and being open and honest in a kind and thoughtful way, hiding things will only hurt more.  Figure out together what led to all this and work together to make it what you both want.