Relationship Problems
I am so tired of dealing with bs it's the same thing everyday. I just feel like he don't understands me. So I feel like I have feelings for someone else and that makes me feel so bad bc I shouldn't feel this way with a guy im in a relationship with. The guy I like is his friend and he doesn't know. His friend makes me feel really good makes me feel good and safe I feel sane and normal with him. With my bf it's just arguing and toxicity. Idk I dont want to break up with him bc of the fact he dont have a place to stay or he does he idk he is like manipulative. I need advice what do I need to do?
@proactiveLand5550
Staying in a relationship with a manipulative person is punishment for you.
How you describe feeling with someone else of good/ safe and sane and normal is what a partner should make us feel. Do not let someone use you for a place to stay etc.
I just dont know how to communicate that it's so hard and im not crazy for liking his friend which I knew b4 him and I dropped for my current bf I also more than like him I love him. I dont know what to do or say.
@proactiveLand5550
Truth is the best move. Can tell you BF the relationship is not working. Take time to evaluate your feelings toward friend. It is easy to feel attracted to someone when we are in a bad situation.
Love is not something we always can control or choose.
Even if you knew this person before does not mean anything. For whatever reason you had a relationship with BF that is now not working out. correct that mistake and end it
Sometimes we become closer and see our feelings after time interacting with someone.
Yeah he the guy im not with feels the same way he loves me and has wanted to he with me for a year I been feeling this way for months now and it's taken a toll on the relationship im currently in. The guy im with now b4 my friend came back ard we would argue everyday and it's just yelling sometimes it would get physical. I know it is partially my fault but I cant keep hurting I just dont know. Ughhh im so scared.
@proactiveLand5550
Most things in life that are worth it we often have to go out of our comfort zone and do things that are difficult.
You are NOT happy with your current BF period. knowing that someone loves us should make us happy
Your right it should but im so scared.
I am in almost the exact situation as you!! (Except the friend would be my coworker) he’s liked me way before I met my current fiance. My relationship is the same exact way, toxic, unstable, he always puts me down, and more. But when it’s good, it’s so good. We’ve been together a year and honestly, most of it has been bad from the start. he can truly be an amazing person, but that’s only when he wants to be… I am fighting for my relationship because I love him so so deeply, but he is not fighting for us or trying to fix himself, I feel so stuck, he tells me I make his life miserable and that all I do is talk about my feelings when he doesn’t want to talk about them, he tells me that he doesn’t want to comfort me and that my feelings and myself in general is just too much for him, he said if we get pregnant than I’d make his life even more miserable than I do now, all I try to do is save my relationship by talking about my feelings and how he hurts me makes me feel, hun, I can’t give you advice but I can promise you, some people are in the same boat as you… I’m here for you, whenever🙏❤️
I am in almost the exact situation as you!! (Except the friend would be my coworker) he’s liked me way before I met my current fiance. My relationship is the same exact way, toxic, unstable, he always puts me down, and more. But when it’s good, it’s so good. We’ve been together a year and honestly, most of it has been bad from the start. he can truly be an amazing person, but that’s only when he wants to be… I am fighting for my relationship because I love him so so deeply, but he is not fighting for us or trying to fix himself, I feel so stuck, he tells me I make his life miserable and that all I do is talk about my feelings when he doesn’t want to talk about them, he tells me that he doesn’t want to comfort me and that my feelings and myself in general is just too much for him, he said if we get pregnant than I’d make his life even more miserable than I do now, all I try to do is save my relationship by talking about my feelings and how he hurts me makes me feel, hun, I can’t give you advice but I can promise you, some people are in the same boat as you… I’m here for you, whenever🙏❤️