Relationship
I'm new here english is not my first language)
Hello I'm a college student and in a relationship online been for almost two years now yk It hurts me so much when I feel like they choosing to spend time somewhere else with some other person doing more fun stuff instead of spending time with me even if it's just texts, not that she does it ik coz she's mostly has tuitions and scl but I feel like so.
... I can't explain when this happens. Especially now it is getting worse because she said she wanna make more friends and like she feeling extroverted or more and wanna talk to everyone and also remind you I'm a big introvert i feel so jealous Is it wrong to feel this way? I don't if it is right place to say these or can you dm me
@lavenderKitten8015
Welcome to 7 cups.
The forum is your place to share whatever you like. As long as you respect others, anything is allowed.
Relationships are difficult and online ones particularly so. It's hard to stay connected when you are not there in person. So it's understandable you are finding it challenging.
It sounds like you are worried that she might be finding other people more interesting than you. This is a very natural worry, because it gets at our self esteem. But you are understanding that it is not being helpful, because it is leading to feelings of jealousy.
If you really want to resolve this, you are probably going to have to look into why you don't have strong self esteem. Are you afraid of being rejected? Abandoned? Unwanted? Where does this fear come from?
Sometimes when we are worried about something it can be helpful to write down the best and worst case scenarios. The best case scenario is generally what we hope for, the worst case, generally what we fear. Reality is normally somewhere between the two. Can you find a path thru the middle?
Best wishes.
