Relationship
Hi there i'm new here. I'm 24 and currently got out of a relationship with my baby's father. The reasoning was because we needed to work on trustworthy and communication. We are on a break because it was hard for me to trust him again. Because of the past, I want to learn how to give him all my trust. And forgive and forget. We decided to take a break and trying to work out these problems. I got on here because I wasn't able to afford a therapist for myself.
So I looking for anyone who's willing to give me advice or talk on how to start trusting him. And have a better communication. I would appreciate it if anyone could have a small talk with me so i can start expressing my feeling and giving trust.
@daz0515
In reality we can forgive we often do not forget... Trust and respect IMO is earned not just given.
Communication is a 2-way street...... so for good communication, both need to adjust and learn what is the biggest shutdown. I think as a learned behavior I always went to the items that were a sore spot and inflict damage quickly..... then partner would always just be defensive and silent. when I saw I could accomplish more by not accusing or saying things like "you always" (even if it felt like they always did something). the "I feel" and using the word sometimes every time I wanted to say "always" really helped.... but I Also asked them to examine and adjust their communication style as well.
