Relationship issues
I am in a relationship with a man I have been with for 11 years. We have 2 kids together and one on the way. I asked him to leave because before I got pregnant he promised me he would stay sober with me. The hardest part of being pregnant for me is not smoking weed. He said he would stick with me and not smoke this time. He was lying and smoking behind my back so I asked him to leave. He did he supposedly slept in a van for a few days. We texted and he agreed to stop smoking stop drinking and stop lying to me so he came back home. Turns out he wasn't even staying in the van he was sleeping at his friend's house he deleted the messages and acted like he was sleeping in his van. he also sent his friend a message about how a women at work had a nice as was a flirt and how he'd like to put a baby in her belly. I tried ignoring it but he kept asking what was wrong I finally told him and now I'm the one just starting a fight he said it's harmless and he's not even said 2 words to her. He tried deleting theessages to his friend to hide it and now is acting like I'm hiding *** from him. This isn't the first time he's talked to women behind my back. He says it's not cheating if it's not physical but has sent *** pics to my boss before I'm so tired and stressed and feel unwanted. He's always made me feel unwanted and ugly. I'm tired of trying. I need a friend to talk to I have no friends
You should stop it.
@ambitiousTriangle2552
I'm sorry you have trust issues.. He's definitely conveying curious behavior.. it's a dubious affair to have to constantly be checking his phone.. I hope you know what your doing..
There are people here to chat with if you haven't figured it out yet.
Good luck.. 🌲
As someone whose going through some pretty rough stuff too at the moment, I want to just say, dont stand for feeling less then..and dont belittle yourself..you deserve someone that chooses you first, someone that would never make you feel as you do right now. ❤️ feel better , and reach out if you need too!
@ambitiousTriangle2552
Dear Beloved,
You have been carrying a lot of hurt, disappointment, and stress. It is understandable that you feel exhausted. Trust is built through honesty, consistency, and respect. When promises are repeatedly broken and important information is hidden, it can make a relationship feel unstable.
Your feelings about the messages, the dishonesty, and the deleted conversations are valid. The issue is not only what was said, but also the pattern of secrecy and broken trust that you have experienced over time. It is understandable that this would leave you feeling hurt, unwanted, and questioning the relationship.
Please remember that another person's choices do not determine your worth or attractiveness. The way he behaves is a reflection of his decisions, not your value as a person.
Right now, focus on taking care of yourself and your emotional well-being, especially during your pregnancy. Consider reaching out to supportive family members. You do not have to carry all of this stress alone.
Take some time to reflect on what you need to feel respected, safe, and valued in a relationship.
Please be compassionate with yourself. You deserve support, respect, and care.