Relationship problems
My boyfriend and I have been on and off for four years. We were engaged at one Point. I’m still having Issues forgiving him for things he did to me in the past. He recently broke my trust again. I know people are gonna tell me to break up with him, but I do love him, which is why we’re back together and I’m close with his niece And nephews and Mom. He’s cheating on me in the past. Stole thing be bought me and sold them I paid 90% of our bills which he won't admit to. He tool 1100 out of our wedding fund, then told me months later. lied to me, broke promises, put his friends first. Please, someone help and give me some advice.
@agreeableBirch895
What advice do you need? You love him, don"t want ti break up. Do you want to change him? It's impossible and you know it better then me. I would advise to start to change youself and probably you will get the other perspective on a relationsip you need.
@agreeableBirch895
we cannot change others they have to change themselves. real change he has to want to stick with also. have the hard discussion.. not just talk they forget in a day but real eye-opening communication about what you feel disappointed...angry... taken advantage of ... and how that makes him look in your eyes. Most selfish people care about how they come off in others' opinions. Tell him the truth share your disappointment with his actions. trying to tell yourself he will change without incentive to is telling him it is OK to treat you badly.
Does his mom know what a cheat liar and thief he is bet she did not raise him that way.
You already said you did not want to break up with him so set some boundaries for self-respect. Do not accept his behavior as is. it is great you are close to his family but how much are you willing to take to keep that you are not in a relationship with them.
Bills should be split and tell him when his part is due no exceptions. Tell him you love him, but he is not trustworthy. sooner or later.... being walked on gets old and feelings fade. Love yourself enough to set rules and stick with them.
Relationships need and are often built on trust ........ I do not see much trust.