Relationship stress! Advice please
We filed bankruptcy in 2018 and I find myself creating and doing that same pattern this year since I have been out of work since November of 23 and just got a job a week ago. I had a hysterectomy back in March and 2024 has been a dumpster 🔥 fire. The only silver lining is I lander a good job and I've got an incredible husband that for whatever reason I keep self sabotaging our marriage. I struggle to use no in the vocabulary with him but have no issue telling other people no.
@Luna8083
what do you want to tell him ?.... sometimes if we practice with a third party we can work out some things ....I am not as strong in being as firm as i need to be with spouse either.
To say NO ... when i need to and to not go along...
I think we have sympathy and want to think they can change.... or in my case spouse has health issues and telling him just how unhappy i am. When we are not true to ourselves i feel sometimes everyday things seem to go badly.
The damage has been done. I've been moving money from savings to checking for about 2 months. The chips fall where they may. I just struggle to say that phrase we can't because we don't have the money right now. I just landed a great job which will help us stablize us more