Should i leave him !
My husband is in love with his ex wife. Although they are not in contact at all. But he behaves strange around her. He was actually in intense relationship with her . But she cheated on him with his brother and with so many more boys. Yet he didnt want to leave her but she was not ready to stay with him so he has to divorce her. After a 4 years of relationship with her . He met me and we decided to get married with in a month and got married. Till now i was thinking that he loves me more then anything in the world. Altough i am aware of his flourtious nature but he alwayes chooses me over any other girl. We cam to his ex wife's home bcz she is her cousin as well and i thought they should stop avoiding each other and get normal. but i can see whenever she asks for any help my husbnd just ran behind her and forgets everything. He looks at her in a way i have never seen him before. He always talks about her that what a trash she was and how miserable his life would be if she would have been her partner. And how i am better then her. He somehow compares me with her as well. That i look better and all. . i dont find him the same person he was before. The girls doesnt want him back i think if she ever does he would choose her over me . I can seee his lover for her. But he never admits. I dont know what to do. Am i overthinking! I have a kid of 1 year as well. Should i get seprated ! What should i do ?
@unassumingPear147
I am sorry you are dealing with this... the fact is sometimes there is a person whom someone has a connection or feelings for regardless of what type of person she is or her looks and how she treated him.
Marrying him in such a short time you did not get to see some things and while in reality you may be a better partner/ wife for him until he quits having some sort of fantasy about her and what if ... you are a stand in for his life. You deserve to be first choice in your relationship and he is not doing that.
of course he gets defensive when you speak up about this for two reasons ... # one ..you are telling truth and his fantasy in his head is in opposition to that and number two he knows becoming angry or defensive shuts down the conversation.
So whats the conclusion ! What should i do !
@unassumingPear147
Only you can make that choice as you have all the details
i would at the very least let him know how you feel and he needs to be honest about it.