Something I can't express
Hey so , I'm honestly really confused right now. I'm in a relationship with someone I love a lot, and things have been going well between us for months. But recently my ex came back and messaged me after being out of my life for a long time.
The thing is, I don't think I want to get back together with my ex. The breakup hurt me a lot, and remembering everything made me cry. I keep thinking about the disrespect and the things that were said, and part of me still can't understand how someone can come back and act like nothing happened.
At the same time, hearing from them brought back a lot of memories. Not just the bad ones, but the good ones too. I genuinely loved them once, and I think that's why it's affecting me. But I also love my current boyfriend, and I don't want to leave him.
Right now I think I just need some distance and time to focus on my exams and myself. I don't know what the future holds after school, but I don't want to make decisions based on confusion or old memories. More than anything, I think I just wish my ex would someday acknowledge the hurt they caused and apologize. Not because I want them back, but because that part of the story still feels unfinished.
And i am also feeling that I am feeling wrong whatever i am feeling is wrong but both of them did me wrong at some point i forgave them but when I am feeling like this I don't think they will forgive me for this for what I am feeling.
So i just want you y'all to tell what should I do in this situation?
Hello @pumpkinpie62710.
What should you do? Talk to a therapist or listener if you need guidance.. I think only you know what to do. Reading self help books and online data can assist you further.
I have confidence that you are going to meet this challenge and find the best course of action.
Thank you for reaching out and keeping an open mind😊
I don't think i know what to do now i am at that situation.
Hi @pumpkinpie62710.
Yes of course.
Is it possible you are avoiding or delaying making a decision?
We're all proud of you for seeking answers to your dilemma but when I read your post I could never come to a conclusion.
I understand your frustration and respect your desire to find answers. 🌟
Yes i guess so idk what to do so i am just avoiding it at this point.
@pumpkinpie62710
Whatever your decision will be i'm sure it will be the right ✅️ one.✨️
@pumpkinpie62710
It is normal when an ex or even a past event appears again. we wonder "WHAT IF" we can tell ourselves we want closure or an apology etc. but in fact that simply most often does not happen. we just want a better ending but there are no do-overs.
We may feel guilty having the what if thoughts while with our current partner and make mistake of thinking if only we could stop time check out past and still have future waiting for us. like some kind of flash back on a tv show or movie. prolonging it or taking a break for another reason will only complicate things.
@pumpkinpie62710 What do you think about the current relationship if you return to ex?