Sorry I really need help
I been having lot of thoughts with my relationship we have been dating for 7 months and have been having arguments off and on I'm a withdrawer I don't Handel conflict well at all and that's what we mostly argue about something's on the line of I need to have more depth when he is explaining his feelings and I tell him I agree with how he is feeling when he is hurt about something and he always asked do I have nothing else to say and I tell him no I have nothing to say I'm more of a I will show you l can do better then talking about the whole step process and this argument has been going on back and forth where he makes me prove to him that I can talk something on the line of he's asking me random questions about my life when I was younger and he's Like if you don't ask me questions back then the relationship is over and I don't like that because it's like I'm always having to prove that's I'm worth staying for but I still do it because I love him but I'm at that point where I'm done arguing about the same thing I'm done proving that I'm worth staying for and right now he aot mad at me because he asked me if I was still wake in 30 minutes to call him but I was sleep so I didn't call then he texted asking if I was up right when I woke up and I was like yeah I'm tired but I'm up and he was like dang didn't call and I was explaining I didn't forget he asked me to call but I'm about to go back to sleep he called me and I told him I was tired he was like alright saying I can hang up so I did he's going to call me back and ask why didny sayIlove him and was like I love him and I'm going to sleep now I'm tired then he hung up and said that he won't bother me no more then sometime later when I didn't reply he apologized saying that was inconsiderate to text him in the morning and how he wants to be with me forever and I love him i want it to work between us
Too hard to read
But your boyfriend reminds me myself. Complicated staff between you two ;}
I don’t understand what you mean but thank you
I would say better communication is needed on both sides. I'm also not a fan of conflict, but it is important to be able to speak your mind and discuss things calmly and then hopefully resolve any issues.
Maybe what your partner is looking for, after he shares, is possibly follow up questions, thanks for explaining your side of things, what do you think would help in this moment?
He should not be grilling you or talking at you either but creating a comfortable safe space for you to share naturally.
So that you want to open up and say, Oh I just remembered something that I wanted to tell you about...
You should both be curious about each others lives, talking is how you connect deeper to each other.
But conversations should happen randomly not be forced. Sometimes you ask things, sometimes he does.
Share how you feel..
Yes and I most definitely have been communicating and been getting out of my comfort zone and i explained that to him that he says he notice changes and then the next week it’s the same argument about me not changing in that way and we are both curious in each others life he does talk more about his life then I do mine that could stem off that he is much older than me so he mostly talks about when he was my age but thank you so much
I hope things will eventually work out for you...🙏
Thank you so much we definitely had a very long conversation about it and we working through it
@goldenDime3579
communication takes time and practice. circle arguments are the worst.
People are not just natural good communicators some have a hard time asking follow-up questions to many show you are listening and really understanding their feelings. Far too many people say they hear us and will try but that falls flat because it is overused IMO. My partner said they would "try" but nothing changed ... A person is disappointed not just because nothing changed but the words were hollow.
It is early in your relationship so now is a good time to fix because this becomes a pattern
Trying to solve that once and for all and having the big conversation about what is overreacting ... people fall asleep they miss texts or miss calls happens in all relationships. Making a big deal like it is over on that shows insecurity and immaturity.
Yes i definitely agree and i tell him all the time it’s more about actions then words i dont need you to tell me everyday something will change i would rather see it and we most definitely had a very long conversation and are working on it thank you so much