Stress
So I had a friends group ( people I used to drink with on weekends ) and that’s how o met my now ex bf. 3 years ago. We would make up and get back toualqays argue and cause drama. I would mostly cause drama and say not nice things. Few weeks ago apparently I pushed my female friend from the group to the point she now blocked me and doesn’t wanna be my friend ( I black out drunk most of the time ) I have bpd. Anyway I could sense the group stopped liking me. I also cheated on my bf at the time twice and they were aware of it. So the guys from the group u could tell fell out with me but spoke because of the sake of the group. My mental state wasn’t and isn’t the best tbh. Lazy week my bf now ex said he had enough and broke up with me fully again and said he wishes me the best and that I get help. He went out with them. Well he went there with his other friends to the place we as a group hang out. Then on the Sunday my other female friend just blocked me everywhere with no explanation. I belive it’s because of all the drama and she had enough as well. But it still hurts loosing everyone.
Ads they right not wanting to be my friend ?
I understand that you were or are in a really bad mental space when all of this happened, and I genuinely hope you are trying to get better and work through what you’re going through. At the same time, I don’t think they are wrong for deciding that they no longer want to be friends with you. From their perspective, you have been pushing their boundaries and, at times, treating them in a way that has been disrespectful and mean.
Some people may have the patience to continue being there for you because they care about you and hope that you will get better and that things can eventually go back to normal. But not everyone will have that patience, and they are allowed to decide that they no longer want to be part of a friendship that is negatively affecting them. Your mental health can explain why you acted the way you did, but it doesn’t necessarily excuse the way you treated people or mean that they have to continue accepting it.
I hope you focus on getting yourself to a better place, but part of that may also mean recognizing how your actions have affected the people around you and respecting their boundaries, even if their decision to walk away hurts.
