Stressed Marriage
I am at a point where I just cannot seem to make my wife happy. We bicker and cannot seem to get into a groove. I know relationships take work but how long do I keep trying? I do love her and long for the earlier days. I want to feel loved again. Just very hard from day to day.
@tranquility74
Hi there. Sorry to hear this. It sounds like you and your wife need to look at how you’re communicating with one another. Also, do you go out together anywhere? Sometimes a day or night out can help because you’re in a different environment and can chat about different things.
@tranquility74
It is all about communication ... To me bickering is beating around the bush or leaving clues but not straight to the heart of the matter... tell her how you feel insist on knowing why they are distant or mad not "i don't know or it is nothing"
So many try to "fix" it by adding pressure and stress like "lets take a trip or fancy dinner " ... or whatever this does not work. people want to be seen heard and appreciated and if couples can not do that in their day to day ... trips or events are a temporary distractions. people tend to get along in different environment but once back to home same issues pop up.
This is the one person we should be able to speak the truth to .... tell the truth to not sugar coat all ... instead we pretend and let things go as we do not want to fight.... but the truth is we suppress our real wants and needs until we cannot anymore. we resent our partners and want out....
My partner does not listen at first i thought a hearing issue but there is a difference between hearing and listening and taking what is said in and processing it. change and adjusting is hard in my case we suppressed for so long... that now after telling the truth .................the change or fix cannot happen fast enough and we are frustrated...
Some people can find love and feelings like before but honestly we learn to love differently for who we are now as people change from when they first met and married.