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Struggling to trust again.

User Profile: azureWater2535
azureWater2535 June 5th, 2025

Man, I’ve been going through it. My girl came clean about some stuff, and it’s been messing with my head.

She told me this guy, Paul, was just someone who liked her and they went on a couple dates — but now I find out they were actually messing around, she got pregnant, and had an abortion. That hit hard.

Then there was a night she said she stayed at a guy friend’s house and he slept on the couch — but later admitted they cuddled in his bed after a night out, and she sat on his lap and danced in front of him. She didn’t bring pyjamas because it was unplanned so she slept in his shorts and T shirt. She swears nothing sexual happened and that they were just friends, but still.

Honestly, I don’t know if she’s telling the truth. Everything came out in pieces, and now I’m stuck feeling like I can’t fully trust her or shake the whole thing.

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 June 5th, 2025

@azureWater2535

I can understand your hesitation to trust especially if all was innocent small details or changes should not come out in pieces or stories change.    

Trust is Earned not just given and looks like she does not understand that.  Each detail that was added later is chipping away at building trust and that sounds like it is a willful action on her part.   it is not on you but her to earn your trust or not. 


User Profile: quickwittedWillow6742
quickwittedWillow6742 June 5th, 2025

This was during your time together?