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Suggestions for dealing with a malignant narcissist

User Profile: carefulTangerine6675
carefulTangerine6675 July 6th, 2025

Hello everyone-

I have this really stressful and potentially unsafe situation I’ve been dealing with and I’m wondering if anyone has any recommendations. It sounds pretty out there, but it is completely true.

I met someone almost 5 years ago. I was referred to this chiropractor by a friend and from the first session there was this really strong attraction. He was always professional, but a little flirtatious. I started texting him, asked him to lunch which he declined, but he didn’t say because I was a client. I continue texting him for a really long time and he would consistently reply about 3-4 days later. He then texts that he’s sending me a music playlist, but never sends one. Then finally about a month later he texts that he has sent one, but there’s nothing in the thread. I take a screenshot to show him what I see, and then he just disappears. I don’t realize until much later that it was probably because I caught him in a lie.

So a few months pass of him not replying to my texts and then suddenly he does and the back and forth texting continues. Finally I get frustrated because I’m feeling played with. He knows I’m interested in him and he keeps replying to my texts, but never asks me out. So I text him”why would you flirt like you did if you weren’t going to do anything about it? I must’ve scared you off.” and he doesn’t reply for nearly 2 weeks. Once he does, he completely denies ever flirting (gaslights me) and says we shouldn’t communicate any longer. I’m disappointed and still send a couple of texts until I finally stop.

A year later I see that a fake Reddit and *** account were created in my name, Trojan malware is found on my computer and phone, home has been broken into, been followed by sketchy people in my neighborhood, followed by drones and my dogs poisoned (they survived). A keylogger had been installed on my computer so he could see everything I type and what I search for online. There’s also a tracker that my AirGuard App has found under my car.

All of these things have been happening over the past 2 years. I saw that within the same week he had discarded me that my Google account was signed into by another iPhone. So this tells me that I was being surveilled for about a year before I knew anything was happening. He knows what I buy too since he has access to my bank information. He has hacked my router (I’ve seen multiple different devices on it) so anytime I change passwords it’s useless- he gets back in.

Police won’t do anything because I don’t have recent texts, emails or calls with threats or anything. I put a camera up, but it was hacked because it was connected to WiFi.

Is there anything anyone can recommend given I am dealing with what I believe is a narcissistic/sociopathic person? I am wondering if I should rehome my dogs because if I do anything like get a private investigator, they will most likely be hurt. Any feedback at all is greatly appreciated!!🙏🙏

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User Profile: Creamyyy
Creamyyy July 9th, 2025

Sorry this is so rough. I cant imagine your anguish.

But to me this really looks like a matter the police has to investigate. They may not want to check him if they demand a proof of his threatening emails or something....but regardless they have to figure out who is doing all of it especially the house being broken into and being followed around.... how can the police not look into that when this is clearly about making sure youre safe?

User Profile: Creamyyy
Creamyyy July 9th, 2025

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