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Unexpected Breakup

User Profile: practicalPlum3423
practicalPlum3423 July 28th, 2023

Hello!


Last Wednesday, I experienced a break up out of the blue. I was COMPLETELY BLINDSIDED. He and I had been together for about 9 months, zero fights. I met him after work and he looked troubled, out of character for him. He said something had been bothering him for a week and he needed to talk to me. He went on to say that I had made him a better man, that I had treated him so well and I had done nothing wrong. He said he was afraid for me to see the bad parts of him. He said there would never be a time when he wouldn't answer a text or call from me and if my family ever needed a thing he'd be there. It was like an out of body experience, very confusing. I've talked about it with friends and they are unsure how he went from talking about a future together, wedding and kids, to this. Only explanation people have come up with is that he got scared of the future and hopefully just needs time to think. His mother says that he hasn't really talked about it since he broke up with me and seems to have retreated into himself. I sent him a text last night telling him that while I am hurt that I still care about him and want to help with whatever he is dealing with if he wants to talk. No answer Thoughts? I'm praying so hard that he gets help from me or someone else.

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User Profile: lavenderAvocado2406
lavenderAvocado2406 July 29th, 2023

There is a concept called betrayal trauma.he may be simply going thru something deep and is afraid that if he shares he will face rejection,so he getting into his shell.