Unsure what to do
I've been in an almost 10 years long relationship. It's been the worst thing in my life. I love my significant other and don't want to give up on them because they don't have anyone but me, but at the same time they have been a horrible and very toxic person to be with. I want to learn how to give space because I get scared I'm going to lose them and I don't want to directly or indirectly force them to stay.
@lifesaversletsgo,
if you're not happy in a relationship and the two of you can't work it out with professional help, then you should call it quits.
Sticking around because the other has no one else is not your problem and will only drain you more.
@lifesaversletsgo
Relationships should NOT be held onto because it has been X amount of years .. there is no prize for staying forever when you are just going thru the motions. . No amount of time gives someone the permission to treat you badly. Love yourself first .....no matter how gracious you are in protecting his feelings will make him appreciate your efforts.
You are not leaving ... for you ... it is scary to start over... we think a bad situation is better then being alone... we worry the next person will be the same. it is not safe to stay miserable take that step for YOU .....
