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@n0tl1b3rty

Hi! I also went through a breakup a year and a half ago and have been single ever since. First, I want to commend you for acknowledging your role in your relationship's breakdown and for seeking self-improvement on your own terms. These actions show self-awareness that will serve you well in the long run, whether you find a new relationship soon or not. 

As far as practical advice, I can only share what worked for me, so your mileage may vary. A couple months after my breakup, I started taking strength training classes at a local gym. This was partly to get over my ex, but also partly because he used to joke about me getting strong enough to carry him (probably because he was 5'9" and I'm only 5'2" lol). When I started, I was the weakest person in the class. I still can't lift as much as others, but the gym's environment is very supportive and lets everyone go at their own pace. However, I've definitely gotten stronger from month to month, and even my boss was impressed when he found out I achieved a personal record on my deadlifts. Most importantly, I FEEL better after a decent workout, which should be the primary motivation for starting a fitness routine (the bigger muscles and the ability to impress people are just bonuses).