Views of intimacy ruined
Hey everyone, so today my bf told me he’s been feeling miserable cause well we don’t have intimacy, we used to get intimate often like two years ago but slowly stopped, thing is ive always been scared, but i havent shown it. Before my bf i was with some guy for two months who forced me to send inappropriate pictures and i never felt happy during it, never enjoyed it, it was forced, i was threatened to be broken up with. so my brain has linked intimacy with stress and loss of control, it has affected my relationship, thing is my bf wont leave me cause we dont have intimacy but he just feels like ***. I love him a lot but i am scared. I cant even hold a kiss for long. Im not sure how to fix this i hate my ex for ruining my views of intimacy.
@gonerlair
I'm sorry that your ex did this.
He has no right to manipulate you into sending pictures you didn't want to send.
Or to make you feel guilty.
He should have respected your boundaries.
It's important you ask yourself the question, honestly, regardless of what your bf wants, what do you want?
And if you can honestly say, you want to be intimate, then it's important to have an honest conversation and explain why you are struggling and holding back and figure out a way that you can move forward.
And that might mean, taking things slow.
But it's your choice 🩷
