What do you guys think of marriage?
To me marriage is a gamble
I'm sure there is a chance that you'll find a good relationship, where both can live together until death do them apart.
But rly... what are the chances? what about the risk of heartbreak or abusive relationships?
With most of the marriages from the people around me ended up in flames. I find it more and more difficult to believe in marriage.
I now think that I should not marry.
Yes, I'm probably going to regret dying alone, or not having a child. But rly.. the abuse and the heartbreak made me unsure about being married. Therefore, I rather not be married or be in a relationship if I'm still unsure about it, and having a child knowing that they might end up in a toxic environment is heartbreaking to me. I rather not have a child than having to see my child suffer.
Of course all this is just my own opinion. By all means you don't have to have the same opinion as me. I'm not forcing my opinion on anyone. I just want to voice myself. Share my thoughts and feelings.
@creammead Hey there! I'm not sure if I can comment on that just yet because I am pretty young to understand complex things like marriage. However, I'm here to let you know that you're allowed to feel that way, and the way you feel is valid. Also, I totally get what you mean when you say that you'd rather not have children than see them suffer. It makes sense, and I feel that way too. I'm that child who's growing up with abusive parents and I would absolutely hate to see my children survive abuse.
Thanks for replying Blackberry. I'm very sorry to hear about that. I hope everything will take a turn for the better. Take a chance to remind yourself of how strong you are to have survived everything. Be proud of yourself but mostly be kind to yourself.
@creammead You're welcome, Creammead. Thank you so much for your support. Sadly, I haven't survived everything just yet, I'm in the middle of this and I don't know if I'll make it out alive. But there isn't a lot I can do right now.
