When to get divorced?
Hello,
I am married for 3 years almost four. My wife does not communicate well with me and I'm finding ot hard to trust her. I myself have some mental issues I have been dealing with and I have finally made progress on addressing the issues and fixing the issues. I find at this point it is too far gone and she is unhappy in our marriage and honestly so am I. I do not feel loved, like she cares about anything I do or say, she talks to exs and swears that's normal and fine, I find myself trying to avoid her so I do not get mad and start an argument because of all the things on my mind may cause me to go off on her. I'm at a tough spot of trying to set my mind to be positive and we can work through this together or why waste any more time on this knowing the outcome will be a divorce? It's a struggle and any advice would be amazing.
Thank you so much.
@amicableSquare3761
Communication can be fixed but so often people including me avoid the problem/ arguments to where we question whether if the communication was fixed if it is too far gone. the not feeling loved and appreciated is a BIG problem ..... i do not know if that can be repaired but you have experience in therapy working on your growth. think back and what made you love her. we lose that in anger / lacking trust ...... but some can resolve do you see a possibility of couples counseling ?
Talking to people and yes sometimes EX are friends and NOT a threat romantically....... everyone just assumes they are on step away of rekindling but that is IMO a small occurrence. They just know the back story and her issues and can give first hand advice.
Here is the questions....... if these items existed the communication etc .... why marry and not just stay gf/bf ? some people panic about calling it quits because they may not want to be divorced on the dating market..... it is early and calling a mistake and divorce is easier NOW then after a few more years. Are there any children in the mix?