Why do breakups sometimes feel like day 1
....even if it's long ago??? I don't want that feelings. I HATE her for what she did but at the same time I miss everything so so so so much. Every time I have these days I'm worried that I'll never be able to move on and this scares me. I don't want to think about her . Especially because there are so many open questions. I loved her so much but I realized after the breakup that she did so many wrong things in the relationship. It makes me mad.and sad. I want to avoid these feelings and thoughts but I know that it's mabey a bad idea because it's never a good idea to ignore feelings . Otherwise I don't know where to put those feelings and thoughts. There's so much anger and sadness .... help
@communicativeApple9560
Have you tried re directing your anger or feelings .....
by that i mean perhaps you are not letting go or moving on because you can not accept things for what they were or are .........and you want a deeper meaning assigned.
We seldom IMO get closure........ simply because they do not see the things from our vantage point.....
a person i know simply has no reflection about what they do or why they did it .... i insist they must have motive and reasoning as i do in my tasks ........ and i seemingly cannot give them a pass that YES they really are that simple .................and they do not think or care about reasoning out things.....
Even after numerous examples of this behavior i still cannot fathom why a person would do so many things without reason or forethought.
Your ex did bad things in relationship .... you might have had deeper feelings then she did.
Moving on and seeing past is past sometimes is the best remedy for wanting closure.