allowing yourself to love someone again
a few months back, my gf did something that really hurt me. We did a lot of talking and trying to work through it over the past few months, and have decided to stick together.
After a lot of thinking I think I've been able to try to explain what exactly is still bothering me. When it happened, I just couldn't believe that she could have done what she did, and also love me. I know this isn't true anymore; I very much love her and I know she loves me back.
The problem now is that I've spent so long looking at her loving acts as something disingenuous and fake (when they weren't) that I now don't know how to break out of that cycle. I want to go back to believing that she loves me (and I don't think there's much more she can do). Any help plz?
@creativeDay5811 Hi there, Day. Thank you for sharing this with the community.
Rebuilding trust after a hurtful incident takes time and effort. To break out of the cycle of doubt and believe in your girlfriend's love, maintain open communication about your feelings and acknowledge the positive changes she's made. Practice mindfulness to stay in the present and reflect on the love you both share. Couples therapy can offer guidance, and self-reflection helps you understand your own insecurities. Encourage small, consistent acts of love, set realistic expectations, and focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. Remind yourself of the reasons you love her, embrace the present, and be patient as you both navigate this process of healing and rebuilding trust.
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Those things are hard to change................. when we find someone did something bad... we look at everything with different perspectives think there is other meaning to small things..
Depending on what item was done also..... example if a person broke a vase and the repaired even if you can glue the pieces together on certain days you may notice or remember the crack in it . just focua on now and try to remember the bond is holding and a small scar is OK.