attraction
I feel like my boyfriend of over a year isnt attracted to me anymore. He says he is but he dosent show it. I was diagnosed with pcos not to long ago. i can’t lose weight, no matter how i try. he watches 18+ videos all the time and i’ve never said it to him but it effects me. it makes me want to crawl into a ball and not let him see me. i try to put makeup on or do my hair. or wear something nice and all he ever seems like he’s intrested in is his phone and not me no matter what i do. i’m so confused bc he shows me he loves me outside of that intimate time, like when we’re around friends and family. i don’t know if im over thinking it. or what.
@Sydmarie76
That’s rough and does really sound confusing. You feel like your boyfriend doesn’t find you attractive, as his always on his phone, watches adult videos and your also feeling insecure due to pcos weight issues. But on the other hand, he has verbally reassured you, but not intimately.
Firstly, let me say that I know how difficult it can be when you’re struggling to feel attractive to a partner, especially when you feel they have lost interest.
In terms of whether you’re overthinking it, it’s clear you’re not imagining certain things you’ve highlighted i.e. your boyfriend watching adult videos etc.
It’s clear you’re trying to appeal to him and work on your self-esteem, but that it’s undermined by the things you’ve highlighted. You mentioned wanting to crawl into a ball and not let him see you. This dynamic does not feel healthy.
Have you spoken to him about how his reduced physical interest affects you?