bf used to share pics of hot girls with his friends (before our relationship)
I need your opinions please :(
I just found out my bf used to have this group chat with people from work, and theyse guys were all on bumble together so every once in a while they share photos of hot girls they'd find on the app.
He doesn't do this anymore now that he has me, but it does bother me since i find that behaviour creepy and immature. I don't want to punish him for stuff he did in the past but i dont know how to move forward with this. Because if he used to think about other girls that way, im not sure how he thinks of me now. what should i do?
@grimth It can be useful to maybe reframe this situation and think about how women or men are objectified in certain ways. It might be a good opportunity to reflect on your own views on these things. Does it seem okay for you for women to be objectified? Does it seem okay for men to be objectified?
It's good to have conversations about these things in relationships; especially at the beginning. It's really about respect, which should be at the foundation of your relationship. It's good to talk about whether or not you understand respect in the same way and discuss openly about what is important for you.
@grimth
Have you ever done anything in past ...... maybe something you had friends or others doing.... if you want to know why he did or how he feels about it ASK him .....
i find it really self destructive when so many look for ways to punish or second guess what their partner did before them.... if you feel confident in this relationship why are you looking for an issue from the past ?