caught boyfriend watching porn and want to ask him why he watches it
I’m 25f and he’s 33m. Hi, I don’t know what I’m trying to get out of posting this now I’m just really confused and if anyone got any suggestions on how to approach my boyfriend and ask about what his porn habits are, please share. I really appreciate it.
I went out to get us weed from weed store but I had to come back coz I missed the bus and my phone has less charge. Caught him getting erected watching some naked ladies site on our Mac computer. We’ve been together for 2 years now and thinking to get married ( courthouse) soon and he told to his friends in a conversation in the beginning of our relationship that he doesn’t like watching porn but he is now. Idk what to think, I suppose it’s ok for partner to watch porn when *** , we had sex after I caught him too, he said he was *** and took me to bedroom. But I just don’t know what to think or what to ask him to get clear answers. I kinda have so many questions in my head, whether he’s less interested in me these days and had to watch porn to get off or it’s been a habit sometimes idk. What do I ask?
Tl:Dr; caught boyfriend watching porn and want to ask him why he watches it or if he lost interest in me.
@friendlyLime5034
I would imagine there could be many reason he may watch porn..... just because he said he did not to a group of friends is not a reason to trust that some people do not admit things in front of some friends.
if you want to ask him then do it.... the biggest mistake i see in relationships and one i finally got over myself is just ask what you want to know .... there is no "right " or wrong way to do it honesty is key....
i can only imagine all the time i could have saved if i just got to the point instead of dancing around the issue or waiting for the Right time to bring something up etc... look at how many extra questions that are swirling around in your head .... some you might not have considered if you had just asked that day.
I did, I asked him if there anything wrong in our sex live or needs fixed and he said no and he just had some urge sometimes. I asked why we weren’t having weekend sex that often, he said yesterday I was complaining a lot about some stuff na she got *** and wasn’t in mood. ( which I did I had PTSD episode, was so sad about my life and the war and everything going around, something triggered me) and I felt sorry about it and we just talked it out and I in the end said I guess it’s personal and ok for partners to look at porn and that I just got a little insecure.