coping mechanism help??
hello, i’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 9 months now and i have extreme trust issues to the point where if she isn’t around me, it feels like i can’t function. like at any moment she could just leave me for something or someone. i don’t know how to shake these feelings and just trust her, but i want to, because i cherish her and our relationship. but sometimes my mind always tricks me into being upset about something i shouldn’t be upset about, causing us to argue.
@pluckyThinker5025
I'm glad you are open about this.
And can see it.
It's easier said than done.
But you just need to believe you deserved happiness and love and be honest with her.
You are the only one that can put the work in, if you want this relationship to work 💙
thank you, i appreciate it.
@pluckyThinker5025
A pleasure 💜
@pluckyThinker5025
Facing your trust issues is a must. talking about it and being open might ease any issue you are having.
Most people do not want to be in a relationship with someone who never trusts them or feels they must be with you constantly. It feels like a forced choice not one made because they chose YOU......or they want to be with you.
thank you, your insight is very helpful.
When I first loved i felt out of control. Before my state was dependent on me. Once loving there was a caotic variable out of my control.
It was a form of torcher. If this resonates i would recommend feeling it abit. Explaining it abit to her, exploring cause (in my case my mum sent me to my gran for a week when my sister was born and I am adhd) and finding something non harmful to control i like controlling in computer games.
