how do I fix my problem?
hi, i’m pretty new to this but I was wondering if any of you guys have tips to stop worrying so much?
It has become clear to me that I worry too much about the wrong things and always seem to think i’m the root of every action my partner takes and this causes actual problems to form. what are you recommendations on how I could fix this?
@Lysco pay attention to your thoughts instead of rushing to believe them - weigh them - are they rational? If your mind is exaggerating or realistic?
Isn't uncertainty a truth - and therefore to be accepted as is - how can any future belief be the truth if the future is uncertain as we know? This could be believing a catastrophe is to unfold- or that youre going to be the next big superstar- either case whats the evidence you have? None right? Hence... connect to acceptance of uncertainty?
Another tip -- imagine the worst fear ... get it over with. Okay let's think the worst does happen ... and the worst usually death right? Isn't that inevitable ? What's the need for fear then ?
But of course - our anxiety is mostly lying to us --- we are not in the risk of danger of dying 99% of the times --- it's just the ego being hurt---complaning about something it wanted and didnt get --- and therefore bringing in our survival instincts in the form of "worry"... isnt it so?
thank you sm i’ve actually never thought of it this way, I really do appreciate this and I will definitely take everything you said into account.
@lysco sorry it was too much all together . It took me years to undo my worry.. i was a major worrier.... be compassionate with yourself while you do all the mental work. Lots of light and love ✨️❤️
thank you so much, don’t worry about it being too much at all it’s very useful and it definitely is more comforting knowing that you took the time to write that out, thank you🩶
