long distance
ive been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2yrs and he has cheated on me and i have chosen to stay But its so hard to let go of it so im struggling with it and he gets upset with me for it!
@independentChestnut964
Sorry you are going thru that ... Is this a long-distance relationship?
it is hard to get past and his getting upset could be he knows what he did was bad, but no one likes to be reminded of their failures.
it is a long distance n he doesn’t he wants me to get over it
@independentChestnut964
I can only imagine how hard it would be to get over it even in a relationship in person it needs IMO to be discussed. in LDR it is great and we have an emotional connection but I often wondered if someone in a LDR could not be tempted by a person in real life that you can actually see and touch.
the sad thing is he cheated twice with females that where not even in his state they where in mine
@independentChestnut964 I feel your pain
You are in a difficult situation if your boyfriend cheated on you and you are maintaining a long distant relationship... That is hard because and the relationship requires Contact, presence.. forgiveness is a beautiful thing that you can only do once,
But if the cheating happened partially because of the long distance, then there is a good probability that it will happen again... You might not like it, but maybe you are in a situation or you should consider finishing your relationship... Whether you do that or not, it should begin with conversation, Communication. expressing the way you feel and what you both want out of the relationship... if you don't feel his interests are not aligned with yours, Maybe it's time to call it quits
Be strong.
have a hug and good luck 😊
thanks for ur words
@independentChestnut964
I was in a long distance before, I would get emotionally taken advantage of. The hardest part and the biggest thing we fear is admitting something that may come true "Oh they will cheat, Oh they will leave me again". Fear of the unknown is what holds people in shackles, once you start to ask and learn about the unknown the fear becomes no more. Never let anyone make you feel less of a human being. The truth is when someone cheats, they go through every process in their mind, you crossed his mind when he was initiating the cheating, he had several chances to not cheat on you to refrain from that action but he still chose to. Manipulation on his part, to make you feel like its no big deal and you need to get over it. If a person ever cheats on you, they had doubts and will continue having doubts, and for you as well youll always have this thought linger in the back of your mind. For your true peace of mind, you must move on from them. Dont be afraid to be alone for time being, being alone is better than being wit someone who makes you feel unheard, worthless. You deserve betterm you will find better. Long distance relationships especially with cheating involved will never bring you inner peace. Never let anyone come into your life and steal that inner peace because you deserve better.
thank u so much 🙏
Sorry to hear that ☹️😞 I'll pray for your health. I know how draining is this because I was in long distance relationship. We broke up 6 months ago. I have no contact with her. Long distance is very strong. All you need is trust and communication. It's not just relationship it test of your willpower.
We had misunderstanding between us and broke up I miss her so much and still wait if she comes back to me.
But you should talk with your long distance relationship maybe you are having communication issues too. We had communication issues and she thought I'm cheating on her but reality I was depressed😞