sex related issues
Me and my boyfriend have been going steady for a long while but recently he has been losing desire while in the act because he focuses too much on how to please me and not the feeling itself.
I'm not asking him to do that but he is anxious that if he stops then he'll be *** and I'll leave him forever which I reassured him multiple times I won't and I also reassured him about how good he is.
Yet he is still freaking out and he got deeply sad about this problem that to me doesn't exist at all since everything is fine and I love it and he is worried I don't like it.
I really don't know what to do to make him realize that everything is ok and there's no need to be anxious at all any suggestions?
@tallPark8348
I'm sorry this is impacting you.
It's important to have this conversation away from the bedroom.
Less pressurised
And be honest.
Let him know you respect his feelings but that he has to hear you when you say, that you are satisfied and enjoying the intimate side of your relationship or he is in danger of ruining it.
To trust you and if you ever had anything to say, you would confide in him.
That he's in danger of making this into a bigger , needless issue 💚😊
Thank you so much for answering, Ill try talking to him in a better way when he's more calm and follow your advice💚
@tallPark8348 It sounds like maybe he has some trauma around this and might need to talk through what's going on underneath, with you but probably a therapist too
I really wish my girlfriend was like you, my girlfriend just doesn't care about me as mad as that sounds
Maybe he just has some self conscious issues and needs alot of reassurance, he probably thinks your way out his league and he doesn't want to loose you
