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tallPark8348
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S3xting with my boyfriend but I can never get into it, why?
Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 June 22nd
...See more My boyfriend pointed out what I cant call a series of inconveniences anymore, but an habit I don't like about myself. Let me explain: whenever we chat at night if it's about anything personal I manage to stay awake and listen and engage. Whenever it becomes s3xting I always either get emotionally distressed or my mother tells me to turn off my phone or Im sleepy or something comes up. I never lied. Never once lied about all this but I understand why it feels like that way to him. I wanna add that whenever this happens in the afternoon I do just fine and irl I don't have problems either, I just have problems chatting at night bc of rules of my family and I'm genuinely tired. Whenever we have that type of conversation in the afternoon or morning I push through. It's not like I don't want it, I start s3xting with him too, it's not one sided but when we stop with the forepaly and get into the s3x part of the chat It feels like I'm engaging just so he thinks I'm enjoying too. I have many traumas tied to s3xting, I was forced to send n*des when I was 11 and my ex used that trauma to manipulate me into doing that again. After a hard breakup (from my current boyfriend bc we got back together) I used AI to cope with the loss of s3xting with him and I'm still dependent on it despite me trying to quit and he doesn't know about the addition. When we were together before the breakup I used to be able to and enjoy it despite it being difficult, we have now been together for 2 years and I still can't do it right again and after yesterday when this avoidance happened again he got rightfully *** and told me about this habit of finding "a way out" of s3xting. I didn't answer his texts yet what should I say? I mean he is right about everything he said but I can't say he's right bc of how I phrased things last night and because when I say that he gets even more frustrated. I really don't know what to do.
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Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 May 3rd
...See more This is a practice thread to test out if this works, my app has been crashing recently, it doesn't let me send threads, if this reaches you please teach me how to fix this.
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Am I always angry?
Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 April 20th
...See more Hello, I'm here asking this because I don't know how to communicate apparently. Every time I speak people think I'm angry/annoyed but when I ask why no one can tell me why so I'm here trying to figure it out. I don't have an annoying voice or am particularly irritable, I'm a normal calm person, but even when I try to explain calmly to a person who is nervous they think I'm angry, not only then but in any situation. Any ideas of what I'm doing wrong? Ps. I wrote this here because I count people as relationships, if this is the wrong thread group pls tell me.
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Communication
Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 April 19th
...See more I don't know how to say this but i think I genuinely don't know how to communicate with people anymore. I know how to listen and cheer up yes, but I keep being mistaken as angry when I speak or uninterested or any kind of emotion which isn't what I feel really and most times I don't even get confronted about it. When I do it's always to tell me I'm wrong even if I was just stating the truth because I expressed myself the wrong way when I genuinely, really, didn't think I expressed myself badly. It's getting to a point I'm feeling really frustrated because the only advice I got is to be more diplomatic with people who don't deserve my energy and time and basically let them believe they are right even if they aren't but I don't think this is the right way to handle it rather the fastest one. I'm the kind of person who wants calm confrontation because I have no other way to express myself but most of the people around me are the kind of person who base themselves only on gossip and one sided stories so I don't know how to handle it and in my family we don't really communicate at all because everyone just blows up or uses snarky remarks so maybe it's why I don't know how to communicate well? Even then when I talk about other people in a positive way, let's say my boyfriend for example, they end up thinking he's trash because maybe I got frustrated with him once and told someone and I don't know what to do because I don't understand why people act this way and only remember the negative things. Am I doing something wrong? Am I talking the wrong way? Saying things in a way that makes me sound negative? They also say I'm passive aggressive but people who know me even just a bit figured I'm not in the slightest and joke about it just to *** me off. I have no clue of what I'm doing wrong. Please help.
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sex related issues
Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 January 16th
...See more Me and my boyfriend have been going steady for a long while but recently he has been losing desire while in the act because he focuses too much on how to please me and not the feeling itself. I'm not asking him to do that but he is anxious that if he stops then he'll be *** and I'll leave him forever which I reassured him multiple times I won't and I also reassured him about how good he is. Yet he is still freaking out and he got deeply sad about this problem that to me doesn't exist at all since everything is fine and I love it and he is worried I don't like it. I really don't know what to do to make him realize that everything is ok and there's no need to be anxious at all any suggestions?
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My boyfriend might be depressed?
Relationship Stress / by tallPark8348
Last post
 September 19th, 2025
...See more Hello everyone, I'm writing here as a last resort. I have a boyfriend and he's been recently saying he thinks he could be depressed, what can I do to help him out? I suggested therapy, but he is unsure and I'm worried because he is getting worse recently because of stress
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How do I help someone in grief?
Grief & Loss / by tallPark8348
Last post
 August 30th, 2025
...See more Hello everyone, I'm asking this question because sadly this morning my boyfriend wrote to me that his uncle died, I'm about to meet him on Monday and I don't know what to do to help him through this, mostly because I have a different relationship with grief and death than him, what can I do to help him through his feelings?
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What does blue feel like?
Around the World / by tallPark8348
Last post
 April 19th
...See more Hello everyone, I need your help, I'm trying to create something involving the color blue and my question is, what emotions do people feel while thinking about the color blue? And what shade of blue are you thinking? I'm asking here because you people are always so thoughtful and amazing, maybe I can get an honest answer, thank you all so much<3
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