Advice please
So recently I discovered my husband was talking to someone and thats it for 3 months. Now this post isnt so much about that as it is about me needing help with my anxiety and my needs. See we are working on things and choosing to try to fix things. Since this happened I am trying to be more independent so we can both remember who we are, but due to what happened in feeling extremely needy towards him. Needing assurances ALOT more and wanting to talk to him more, which I know isnt going to help things. But I cant help it, we have both been at work for an hour and a half now and I'm on break and I want to talk to him so badly but I'm trying not to, and everyone (family friends) are asleep as I work nightshift. So I'm trying to get ideaa for what I can do when I get like this. My anxiety is high because I need to talk to someone so bad but I can't as they are asleep and I'm trying to get space with my husband. So any tips or ideals?
First of all I am very proud with steps you have taken to fix your relationship and to becoming more independent. I would suggest talking to the listeners when you need assurance. You can also always write your feelings/insecurities down. It will help to express any feelings you have bottled up inside you.