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Am I being replaced?

User Profile: NatalieBunch
NatalieBunch March 16th, 2023

I feel like I'm being replaced. My boyfriend and I have been living together over a year now. He started his new job in January and met some people there. He told them to enroll to the same gym chain we started going together since September so he started going with them instead of going with me, leaving me alone. He also started going to the sames places and do the same activities we used to do together and spends less and less time with me. I work at home so I do all the chores by myslef. He doesn't do much, and when it's his day to cook, he decides he's going to hang out with them. I want to be clear that I'm happy he's making friends and I've never asked him to include me in their activities because I respect his space. However it bothers me he left me aside specially at the gym, he knows I struggle going becuase I've been feeling very depressed lately so I don't have much motivation. Knowing that he still prefers going with them (he promised me we still go together) and he doesn't provide me emotional support since he thinks I don't reasons to be depressed about so I don't deserve support because I sabotage myself. I don't know how to feel about it, I don't know if it is okay to feel sad about this or I am overracting (as he says)

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 March 18th, 2023

@NatalieBunch

I do not think you are being replaced ....... i feel it is normal when you meet new friends and have common interests to do that ..... maybe he feels if he does this it may encourage you to also find other people to share interests in sometimes when a couple seems to be everything to the other person it can be overwhelming .... to be friend / lover / partner/ exercise coach- buddy ....

i think you should try to develop your own motivation .... you are not overthinking it as many people would think the same type things.......

there can be more then one type of motivation..... for some competition... some positive affirmations and others are motivated when facing changes or doing more on your own ........

many times new friends are great as you have not seen all sides sooner or later like a toddler with a new toy they will gradually lose interest in his new buddies and want to have more time with you.