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Am I wrong for moving on my own from my 5 year long relationship?

User Profile: politePineapple1011
politePineapple1011 March 9th, 2021

I’ve(26yrs old Female) been with my boyfriend(30yrs old male) for almost 5 years. The first 2 years we had our own separate apartments. The third year he was unable to renew his lease due to late payments/almost eviction(company filed but he paid before they evicted him) so I let him stay with my roomie and I (didn’t have to pay rent the first 6 months). After that situation ended we tried to move to a 1bedroom but because of his late payments/eviction we couldn’t get approved so we stayed in your current complex and just moved to a 1bedroom under my name. I made the lease for 6 months because we wanted to get a house(it would be under my name and my down payment because he doesn’t have money or good credit). Long story short we can’t get the house right now so I want to move to the city. He doesn’t help me apartment search or anything(very tough to find a place because of renters history) so I’m stressed and I finally found a spot but because of his history it’s a high deposit. I offer to front the money and he can pay me back, he tells me it’s too much money for him to figure out a way to pay it back. I asked him to try make more money then....he got totally offended and ignored me for several days and told me to go move on my own. Days later we work it out and I give him things he needs to work on in our relationship in order for us to live together. He deliberately doesn’t do any of them and actually begins to do things on the list of things that bother me. I tell him I decided to move on my own because I’m tired of taking care of everything and having to always ask for help. (Everything is in my name and any time we want to do something that requires paying ahead of time I have to pay it and he has to pay me back. Etc) He has since then been making me feel bad for him having to find his own place and be able to barley afford rent on his own. He told me he can’t work on our relationship because he’s focused on finding a spot to live. I end up finding out through my current complex that he applied and got approved (with a high deposit) and that he’s known for a few days. Which means he’s been lying to me about his reason for not being able to work on our relationship. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me/lied to me he said “I was protecting my feelings and didn’t feel comfortable telling you I got a spot” keep in mind the leasing office (current complex) so my address on all his docs and I could have gotten kicked out for having him live with me without being on the lease. Am I wrong for choosing to move on my own instead of living with him in our current complex?

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User Profile: FrenchToast
FrenchToast April 1st, 2021

@politePineapple1011 Hi, thanks for sharing that. That sounds like a tough spot to be in. I am sorry you are going through this. I can understand how frustrating and confusing this might be for you!