Being more assertive in a relationship
I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. However, the spark has been missing for a while :(. My boyfriend says I am someone who is rather quiet and doesnt speak up as often. This is how he fell in love with me but he has revealed to me that he loves me but he doesnt want to go crazy long term wondering if I will ever speak up about something to him or just suffer in silence. How can I be more assertive in the relationship?
Hello Kloxo,
Distance relationships may be difficult, so are all relationships. One of the key features to every relationship is communication. Assertive communication will help you express your needs in a respectfull way. There is a lot of free resources about assertive communication on the internet. That skill will be a good asset for sure.
What assertive communication doesnt do is to tell you what are your needs. Dont it tell you the needs of your partner. I cant know about that either.
What do you want or need in a partner? What does your partner want or need? Can you accept yourself the way you are? Can your partner accept you the way you are? Can you accept your partner as he/she really is?
There are just two people on this world that have the key for your relationship. Both of you.
Hugs.