Bi Queer Married Now What?!??
How do you know when its time to call it quits. I am a recently coming out as bi and queer to my wife, some family, friends, and so on i am not sure if i want to stay married. I dont want to hurt my wife anymore and i am not blaming myself but i do value my happiness and hers. She thought i was just gay like bisexuality is not real. I had to educate her because of her narrow mindedness but she is also on edge or was cause of the news and her being reactionary and maybe trying to nake me upset as she was.
all this being said i am still doubting if i want to stay married because now i feel like i have fo always explain and its very tiring. I dont want to answer questions, i dont want to talk unless its to understand me better with an open mind. I dont know how much longer i can maintain this cadence. I also am trying to rebuild my finances which is trash. We moved twice between June and August. So yeah my stress is up there. What should i do?
@liquidfuse
I'm sorry to hear that your wife doesn't really understand bisexuality and keeps confusing it with homosexuality and generally being narrow-minded about it. The situation you're describing of having to explain yourself to someone who doesn't really get it sounds pretty exhausting. I can understand your feeling that if things are destined to continue like this indefinitely, it would feel less stressful/troublesome to not be married.
I wonder if it might be helpful to pass along some online resources that explain what bisexuality is and address certain misconceptions. Here are a few examples of things I was able to find.
https://www.straightspouse.org/faq/coming-out-disclosure-suspicion/questions-about-transgenders/
https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-bisexual
https://www.uis.edu/gendersexualitystudentservices/students/bisexual-guide-uis/bisexuality-myths/
https://theswaddle.com/myths-and-misconceptions-about-bisexuality/
The first link above in particular is part of a broader website designed to support and educate heterosexual spouses who are in a marriage with someone who has come out as LGBTQ+.