Confuse & Complicated
He became a different person in blink of eyes. As if he never interested with me and keep saying "if we're meant to be, then we are". No more love language for over 2-3 months i guess. I think, no one can be busy until doesnt have time to talk with your loved one, is it? He never talk about break up but he's giving hint for me. Is he a coward to say he want a break up? Or he still love me, but in tight situation? And is it even possible for his family to reject me even I never meet his family yet? A lot of questions in my head. Trying to discuss with him, but he keep running away. I'm exhausted of overthinking everyday...
@scarletSugar6238
Hello!
I can see why you say your exhausted of overthinking.
I was going to say to communicate this to him, but as you said he keeps running away.
I hope he stops running and opens the door for a talk.
Sending hugs. 💛✨
Hello! Thank you, i really wish he will open the door for talk, but it seems hard. Been whatsapp him everyday, but he will reply afters days or week. Our conversation only last for several minutes and he ignore me again.. 😔
@scarletSugar6238
It seems like your intuition might be correct:-
* His parents might be influencing him to abandon your relationship since they don’t approve
* This might have led him to doubt his future with you, so he withdrew his attention and affection from you
* Instead of having the courage to break things off with you, he is instead saying vague statements such as ‘If we are meant to be we will be’. This kind of statement has no actual meaning at all in a relationship. If a partner wants to be with someone, they will act with intention and make the effort to maintain the relationship. It seems like he is saying that nonsense statement because he doesn’t want to accept the responsibility of his actions - Neither proactively breaking up with you, nor pro-actively showing love and affection. Merely pretending as if your relationship has nothing to do with him at all but is instead left to the hands of fate! Yes sometimes circumstances don’t align for relationships; but that doesn’t mean individuals therefore have no power or initiative and responsibility to their partner.
If he’s ignoring you for long periods of time, that is its own truth. ‘No response’ IS a response. It tells you you’re not a priority to him.
He might be hoping you will get tired of the whole miserable ‘relationship’ and break it off with him so that he doesn’t have to do it himself.
That’s how it all looks like to me.
You deserve better!
CatsInTheCradle
The bitter truth that i need to accept.. It's hard to let him go because my feeling for him is still there. Hope i could gather my courage to go through this and heal. Thank you for your words ✨
@scarletSugar6238
You’ll be OK! Sometimes things need to fall apart so that better things can come together! <3
update 13/10/2022
It's over. We broke up. His family will ask for her hand on December (his family choice). And he won't fight for us and doesn't want to argue with his family. So he left me.
@scarletSugar6238
Sorry that happened to you.. but maybe it’s for the best! If he’s not willing to fight for you, it was always going to be hopeless. Try to see it as a blessing in disguise! At least it is resolved now.
Wishing you courage & strength to get you through this difficult time!
CatsInTheCradle
Thank you for your warm words! I hope there is something better waits for me in the future :)
