Ex come back
Hi. So i dated this guy during a short time. We were really into each other, lots of passion and all but he started to have mental health issues and pushed me away without telling me anything. So we broke up, it was really hard and 3-4 months later i dated another guy that was an old friend. He is super nice and caring and loving. The perfect boyfriend yet i never spent a day without thinking about my ex. Then, a few weeks ago, my ex came back in my dms and told me he loved me and he regrets what he did, he said he changed and all. There is still a lot of passion but I’m scared to leave the comfort of my relationship with my actual bf. Idk who to choose.
@Deeplyfinding
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well.
I understand why you would feel confused, especially when the ex comeback to the picture and said all of those wonderful things. You dated him for a short time, and it seemed like you had this powerful attraction for the ex that's very hard to forget. This means you were attracted to what's familiar, his inconsistent and distant behavior made you feel this strong passion and love for him. It's the main reason why it's been so tough to heal from what happened, and it brought back those old feelings from the past after reading his dm.
I don't think he changed at all, it's takes a very very long time to completely change in the way he described, it's impossible to make those changes in 3-4 months. I suspect he told you all of those things because he might have felt alone, and the fear of never seeing you again began to take over. You also have to consider what you are getting yourself into because his mental health issues will hurt you, and his inconsistent behavior will show up. I hope you make the best decision that best fits you.
I hope you're doing well over there mate.
While reading I felt like you were talking about my case.
Let me tell you what I feel from my life. 'Life is a simulation' for no doubt, (exceptions would be there). I told on my experience. When my Ex unblocked me after a long 4 years I was struck with amazement, but actually I was digging my own grave, i didn't know that I'm gonna sacrifice my PEACE.
I don't know whether you read a post which says, "God will send back ex to your life, for testing you again...."
My suggestion in this case is simple, if you're happy or peace on your present relation, don't let that break. Because sister let me tell you MENTAL HEALTH IS THE REAL BAG, SECURE IT.!
Hope for the best
Bless you
Hi there, I had a similar experience with my ex.. I ran away to london to find myself and ended up finding someone proper lovely whom I felt I didnt deserve.. so naturally I pushed him away..
How long have you been with your partner? (The ex I mean) and how much do you have in common? What attracted you to re engage with your old friend? I will advise you examine your relationship with both of these and work out what it is YOU need. As selfish as it may sound you need to put yourself first.
Without being too prying, I'm guessing you are on this app because you have mental health problems yourself. If your ex has similar problems, it can become a co dependant relationship (where you are clinging to each other hoping to fix each others problems even though you are in the same hole, so to speak)
Pardon me, I'm only speaking from my own experience, but this is why I drove away the loveliest man.. because I felt I could 'fix' my ex.. it has to be your own journey.. unless he steps up to the plate and admits his faults, there is not a lot you can do unfortunately..
Please let me know how it goes as I'm going through similar things! I hope my message doesn't come across as preachy, its advice I'm trying to follow myself ❤