Got attached to another guy while in a long-term relationship
Hi. I need an advice. My bf and I are in a LDR and we've been in a relationship for 7 years. We're both overseas workers. Recently I have been in contact with an acquiantance and we hit it off. We went out a couple of times. At first I wasn't worried because I thought we were not doing anything wrong. I am not sexually attracted to him and nothing happened between us. But attachment got in the way. I was always talking to him every day so I got used to him being around. He said he has romantic feelings towards me although he has a gf in our home country. I told my bf everything because I couldn't lie to him. Now the other guy went home for vacation. It has been 10 days since I cut my communication with him because I don't want to break-up with my bf over him. But I can't stop thinking about him. And every little thing reminds me of him. I want to message him but I know it will only lead to more confusion. There is no one I can talk to because I know they will judge me. How do I get over this? Any advice? Anyone?
@catoholic11
Hello Catoholic. I understand how messaging may only lead to more confusion but it seems as though that may be a decision you will have to make. Especially if you are willing to work on the relationship that you are currently in with your partner. Being in long distances can be challenging because your partner isn't always available and it may feel good when someone is paying attention that we are in need of. No one can judge you because they don't know what it is like to be in your position. I hope you are able to figure things out soon and improve your relationship. Thank you for sharing with us.
Hi there. I too am in a similar situation. I've tried my hardest to break contact and can't seem to follow through. It's tough .... I tell myself to reflect on my relationship now and how I would feel if we lost eachother. Would I be ok with seeing him with someone else ....and that answer is always no. I know I would be so upset to lose my current relationship so I must do what is best for US not me. I slip and catch myself missing that other person..... and I've told myself its ok to miss him but not act on it. I wish there was a way to forget him because i know we can't be friends....and that's where I'm looking for direction.....how to forget? What to do....I deleted and blocked of social media.... I deleted his number...and yet he always finds me...I would love to forget he ever happened so I could be 100% happy in my relationship.
