How can o convince her that the problems we have aren't deal breakers
I love her and u feel like Ian every aspect of our relationship I have showed her how much love and respect I have for her. But there in one area I fall short for some reason I have proven to be terrible at punctuality and I have the bad habit of saying I'm out and omw and taking 5 hours to get home I make stops to run errands for the house or for myself in fixing my motorcycle or I end up have issues on the road it seems it's always something and every time I give her an update seems to jynx it. And she has had about enough of it and I feel like I over achieve in every other department of the relationship that should make up for my tendency to be late. I try and sometimes I do good for awhile but nevertheless I always manage to fall back into old habits. I don't want to loose her but she is the type that when she is mad she is cold and that leads to me not knowing how to cope. Am I wrong for feeling because I do so well in every other department that this shouldn't be as serious of an issue.
@Decisivecar2219
First of all, I want to say that I love love and I'm happy that you have someone in your life. Lots of good wishes to both of you ❤️
Now, coming to the issue, it really depends on both the partners about how they make up. If your being late is an issue, the best way is to talk to your partner about it, tell her how it is, ask her to understand, or simply, do anything to assure her that you're "hers".
I'm not into giving advice since you're the one having this relationship therefore I'll tell you one thing that works in every relationship: Talking it out. Yes, I know it's hard to sometimes do it but it does help. You can try talking smoothly, taking a light topic, and then actually diving into the real matter. It's your choice.
The thing is, love stays when you're loyal and truthful. I'm sure you'll be the best for her.
Lots of love.
Kim.
@Decisivecar2219
the good thing is you know about what is the issue.......
sometimes people do not see the bigger issue related to a small habit........ for example my spouse is constantly late........ it is his habit too .......but it is a big issue for me as my time is taken up waiting or guessing when we can do this or that ....... i put off my things/ errands that in the end...... i COULD HAVE done ..........because he was LATE again.
if you want to be empathetic imagine it reversed........ you think she will be there for dinner or to go doing something ......you are ready to go and you keep looking out window........... think where are you?..... we have plans.
small things are the real relationship killers IMO
........because i can forgive a big thing but the continual habits........ that may seem petty just add up so fast ................ i no longer trust his word we will be on time or he will quit doing other minor items....
