How do I end a relationship properly?
Hey uh if anyone has advice for me that’ll be awesome. Okay so I have a partner right? They’re awesome and really sweet but I just don’t really feel the same way about them anymore and I don’t know when’s the right time to break it off. They’ve talked about how they’re insecure about people always leaving them and never maintaining a long relationship and dear gods I feel so crappy— On top of that I think they might’ve been having a bad time recently so I really don’t want to add to that. I don’t know what to do?? Is it right to wait till they’re better to break it off or do it now so I’m not dragging it on?? On top of that, my other bf (I thought I was poly when I was dating him, don’t worry, I wasn’t cheating. It was consensual.) recently broke up with me and I suspect he might’ve been cheating on me or had a crush on someone while in a relationship with me. So I feel very hypercritical if i drag things out and fake my love for my current partner. I just really don’t want to hurt my current partner.. they’re really sweet to me and overall a nice person.
I don't understand the point in breaking up with someone who is sweet and is nice to you. Your lucky to get such a nice person and it is not gonna be easy finding someone sweet again. I don't see the point breaking up with someone who hasn't been abusive, ect.
I’m breaking up with them because I feel it’s a one sided relationship if that makes sense? I only think of them as a friend and not as a romantic partner so forcing our relationship together wouldn’t seem very healthy. I don’t think a relationship has to be abusive to not work out. Some people just don’t find each other compatible.
Oh okay. I didn't know that I'm sorry, but good luck on life! ☺️
It’s all good! And thanks, you too.
Update: I broke up with them and things are going pretty well (At least from what I see) We’re still friends and talking like normal with each other.
I'm glad you could do it and everything is going great!!! I'm just in the same situation and I don't know what to do, maybe if you could advice me I would really appreciate it! I'm happy for you! 😊
Thank you! As for advice, this might not work for all cases of course but, just try to let your partner down gently. Show that you appreciated them for being there for you as you figure things out. That’s the best I can give, really. But you can do it! Good luck.