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I know I messed up, but I don't think taking a break is what I want...

User Profile: powerfulHemlock2300
powerfulHemlock2300 October 18th, 2023
I recently upset my girlfriend, and I know what I did was wrong, but I am worried this is going to be the end of us. Neither of us want to break up with the other, but we have acknowledged that that might need to be what happens. Any advice? I, personally, don't feel like I have a lot of other relationships with people that are not my girlfriend. Last night, I confronted one of my girlfriends coworkers about putting his hands on her without asking. She got very upset at me for doing so, and said that I embarrassed her and made things worse. I come from a family that protects each other no matter what, and I sometimes forget that is not always appropriate. I did not mean to make things worse for her, but at the same time I stand by what I did. We talked about how our relationship has been feeling like it's coming to an end, or at least, a break. I have not been feeling as much in love as I think I used to feel and I get so upset with myself for even thinking that way because I want to love her so bad. I don't know what the right answer is to this, but I know we are dangerously close to taking a break. It scares me that she wants to take one, especially because we've been talking about seeing other people.
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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 October 18th, 2023

@powerfulHemlock2300

It sounds like you are dealing with a lot and as much as you want to ... you can not hold on to a relationship that is so close to and end .... this is not when you can course correct . 

I understand you wanted to protect her but by her reaction maybe she was embarrassed because she was OK with what was happening... when a person speaks of maybe seeing other people many already have picked a potential out. 

taking a  break will only delaying what will happen ... pull the band aid off quickly.  if you both are hesitant is it for what is comfortable or can feelings be rekindled ... they won't be on a break.  

User Profile: powerfulHemlock2300
powerfulHemlock2300 OP October 20th, 2023

update: she decided to take some time away from me. 

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