In a mess
I am in a relationship that I didn’t mean to get into. We started out friends. Then it got emotional on both sides. His relationship he has is super bad and mine is too. We haven’t been physical even though I know that doesn’t matter. We have confessed we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together. He left his relationship. But now is really stressed financially about making it on his own. We don’t make mush in our careers. He told me to be patient while he figured it out because he loves me and wanted to be with me. But starting Friday when we left work he stopped contacting me. I asked him yesterday if he was avoiding me but he said no he was trying to figure his life out and he had to get away from everyone and everything to think. He told me Friday financially he might have to go back so he won’t lose the money he has in the house. I don’t know if he went back Friday I didn’t ask. But I don’t know what to do. I’m so stressed and so hurt. I don’t know if he is just taking time and thinking or what he is doing. However tomorrow I have to go to work and he will be there. I don’t even know how to act. I have to keep it all inside because no one knows about us. It’s been going on for a year. I’m so lost. I am the woman I never wanted to be. Please don’t be judgemental. I
@indigoApple3294
there are many others in your shoes ....
.in any relationship where they are with some one or perhaps married they have their finances tied together and a breakup will end up ending their level of money comfort. Is why many older folks now have affairs because they know separating will eat up their finances
when in love you think it does not matter and every thing will be great but it takes time to rebuild to be together and if only he LEFT his relationship........... and you are still in other relationship you are not contributing to your NEW life.... he cannot afford to wait for you to be all in...........
You both knew going in .............that leaving and restarting a new life would change everything .... people in the throws of love they do not think about costs of ending their previous situation...
You are completely right. I offered to leave too. So that I could go ahead and sell my house and find a place together. He didn’t say no and he didn’t say yes. We talked about how hard it would be. I just never thought he would shut me out. I wish he would just say what he is thinking or doing. Hey I’m going back because of money or hey I want to be with you let’s do this. Thanks for listening.