I think my relationship is failing
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend and I'm friends with his other boyfriend (it's poly) but I know I've had so much abusive reactions in the past and I feel horrible. I want to fix it with him. I don't know what to do because I feel like no matter what I'll say it's seem like I'm guilt tripping or attention seeking. I feel bad and I just wanna tell him I'm sorry and I'll actually change but I don't know how.
Hey @JayClown, i hear you're feeling conflicted and confused about approaching your partner for how apologetic you feel for your reactions at times and how you'd want to try to work on them and make things better. It's valid to feel the hesitation and confusion in trying to talk to him, certainly doesn't seem like an easy conversation to have.
You're allowed to feel as you do, the reactions you mentioned ~ they too are caused by something, mhm? How do you feel about addressing what these reactions are typically about and what is it about the circumstances that make you react a certain way?
Perhaps as we try to understand these a bit more, we can hope your partner tries to understand where you're coming from also?
It's okay to feel vulnerable and share how you feel with your partner, you're definitely allowed to communicate as much and as well as you can. Your feelings matter too, okie. ❤
It has been a little while since you made this post, any updates? Did you try talking to him?
