Late night thoughts.. need advice..
Hey, a year ago I broke up with my ex. He was my best friend, my shoulder to cry on, my rock, honestly he was my other half. It hurts writing about this because I’m not sure if I still love him. I left him because I decided the relationship was really toxic and he had a lot of growing up to do. I also had a lot of insecurities that I was projecting onto him that I only realize now. Right after we broke up I was super depressed and lost my appetite. I lost weight (the wrong way) and decided to just go on a binge of dating new people and eating more food. I ended up finding a great guy. But we’ve also been having problems. It’s honestly a lot to explain in this post but I feel like I really like him enough to look past all of that but at the same time because of all of the stuff he did/ does makes me miss my ex. After a long and stressful day of school work, I found myself thinking of my ex and decided to stalk him on social media lol which led me to miss him a lot and sometimes wish that I could’ve met him with the “better” version of myself. I also found myself wondering what if I stayed and do I miss him and do I still love him. I don’t know what any of this means. He was my first love so maybe it’s normal to be thinking about him from time to time but I feel guilty because I’m starting something with someone else. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? If you’ve read this far, thank you and I really hope all is well with you.
Well my advice would be to not date to soon take the time to focus on yourself get you things together.If you think about it like this there’s time for everything dating could wait and I get you sometimes we gotta let go of those people holding us back from doing good even when you don’t realize that they might also be the reason of why you aren’t at your bet rn but for now you should go with the flow at the end of the day you gotta love yourself first try to see the bright side of the situation yk shit happens learn from them some of these things might not even matter later on better days to come 🌻🤗
@friendlyskies2000 If a relationship was once toxic it more than likely will still be. I understand you have changed and he probably has too but unless you are two completly different people will it really be that different? I still stalk my first love even today and that was 17 years ago, he was really awful to me but I loved him anyway. I think stalking exs is just something we all do, and missing them is only natural too but like I said that doesnt mean you should be with them again....even if you do love them. A healthy relationship isnt just about love unfortunatly. Also, If you are having doubts about your current relationship I'd say this isnt the one for you either. You deserve better. If you were in a relationship where you loved them and they made you happy you wouldnt be having doubts I'd say. I hope it all works out for you and Im open to talk further if you want! Best of Luck.