Marriage Workload Advice
So my husband works more then me. He has a high demanding job so like average 50 hours a week while I only do like 30 but I do almost all the errands and more of the household work. Anyways in the past hes been a bit judgmental about my days off. But also if I'm really exhausted he will tell me if I need to stay home to feel better its okay, but usually later on, like an argument a week later he will complain about how I dont work as much as him. He really is understanding a good amount of the time but he can be judgmental about my workload sometimes. Right now I'm on a break at work and I feel really sick tonight, like I'm thinking of going home early. And I'm afraid to tell him like the thought of lying and not telling him has crossed my mind (not that I will do that ive never lied to him and I wont start now) but I hate that I feel this way, I dont want to be afraid to go home early because I'm sick. I cant say I know exactly what my question is or what advice I'm wanting here but I guess does anyone know of a way I can work on this, so I'm not afraid to tell him these things. Or perhaps a way to talk to him about it. Just any thoughts at all on the subject as its really getting to me lately.
It seems like at times things may be at a balance, But then things get disrupted & that may be the issue. At the perfect balance he wants the best for you and at the unbalance not so much based on the info you serve me. I feel a solid chance is needed to be given For yourself and him. You give yourself a chance to be able to care for yourself and give a chance for him to feel for you as best as possible. Breaking up doesn’t sound like an option so you must try if your not willing to end it. But also you cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Meaning if you try to bring yourself to common and understanding grounds he may not be able to understand that. Just don’t hurt continue to hurt if that tends to be the case!! Good luck!
I'm obviously not an expert but everyone needs time off to relax even if your job it's the easiest thing, so I guess it's natural for him to feel a bit jealous but at the same time yeah, whats your job, does it make his 50 hrs feel like 100 for him or just 50 hrs and your 30 hrs feel like 60 or just 30 but even then like I said everyone needs rest and appreciation for their work even if it's really easy, i hope you're not actually afraid and it's just a regular doubt ❤️