Need advice I don’t have anyone else to talk to too
Okay I was talking to this guy 4 months on and off I’m.l was looking for an relationship I met him off a dating I should have seen the red flags when he reached out to me and he came on so strong like calling me and messaging persistently I thought you know he was interested ,he says wants to marry me and start an family ,which at first I was all for but it became to much when within 4 days he would call me 10 times an day and would get upset if I didn’t answer or think I’m Ignoring him if I didn’t text back ,and I told him we had to take it slow and he became upset and was like so your dumping me and I said yes so we stopped talking ,so couple weeks later he came back and apologized and what not ,we started back talking this time he was upset because I didn’t call him baby .,so We stopped talking lol 😂 but each timie he would come back we would stopped because of something he did or me putting my foot down ,we met finally in person in December and immediately after the meeting he commented about my weight ,he already knew what I looked like and I have sent plenty of full body pics.l‼️but he would continue of a couple days later talking About my weight and I had enough of imi time him if he wanted a certain type of girl he should go Find her and. Be with her so I stopped talking to him So yeah lol and he came back an couple days later and again apologized same shit this time it was all about sex,Im the type of person that doesn’t sleep around,but he wants sex and he Claimed he had been sexless for 2 years but I have no way of knowing if that’s true so I asked him to take a std /hiv test he’s a potential person that I wanted to be serious with but he says he good nobody has complained and he only slept with 4 women in his life .still I want him to get tested but he thinks that wrong ,He asked me back in December to get an hotel room but I told him that I don’t want to waste time anymore because he hasn’t even token me on a date yet or ask me any like questions to get to know me .so I didn’t sleep with him 1.I’m trying to get to know you 2.you will not get tested which he refused to do so.3.he wanted to get me pregnant so quick and so me and him again fell out for a whole month and in January we reconnected he asked me so damn so you don’t miss me huh ? So I explained to him why I stopped and that I felt like if he really cared he would have tooken an test and took me seriously,so I gave him One more chance I told Him if we stopped talking this time I’m done for Good and he was like look how many times you’ve said that and I told him I would be serious.I told him I would delete all social media and block Him but he said he was going to find me so I just laughed it off‼️‼️ and it was going Okay for about an week when he asked me if I’m going to get an girlfriend on the side and that’s what he wanted and I’m like that’s not me.I asked him did he want an Open relationship but he said no so I was confused .and he constantly wanted sex so I’m like you need to find somebody who matches your sex Drive and he left me on read and he didn’t Call me or text me and that next day he didn’t text me or call or say anything so I blocked him and changed my number and hasn’t spoken to him since but I find my self wondering did I make an mistake or was I right in cutting him off again?because he had some things about him that made me question him .like barely giving an explanation about his ex and why it ended 2.he said he was crazy and everybody thinks he’s crazy and they are afraid of him,even the people at work he claims are afraid of him because he says they think he’s in the cartel because he has tats 3.he says he’s not an peoples person because if he goes out and if somebody looks at him wrong he would get mad 3.has an limited drivers license 4.an gets jealous when I mention other guys and didn’t want guys looking at me oh and he wanted an baby as soon as we met 😕but the mom don’t like outside women(different race women).and felt I didn’t deserve my car because I’m a woman and younger because at the time he had an older vehicle and my car is more up to date and he had an issue with that .Tbh I’m Kinda scared because he would be like don’t break my heart I don’t know what to expect from him i just need someone’s different point of view oh and I’m like I’m not afraid of you and he told me he would make me afraid of him .that’s it .I just need an opinion .should I be afraid or concerned or just don’t worry about it ?.I haven’t been dwelling on it but it’s in the back of my Mind I cut him off last week of January so I think I’m pretty much in the clear but you never know I’ve been holding this in I don’t have anyone to talk too Because my friends are so judgmental sometimes btw he is. 36 and I’m 25
If he hasn’t reached out to you since January I think you’re okay. It was smart of you to block him and change your number. If you feel nervous maybe consider informing your friends and share your location with them so someone you trust always knows where you are if anything was to happen. This guy seemed immature and you made the right choice by cutting him off. In the meantime, I would gather screenshots and all evidence of anything threatening he’s said to you just in case he does try something, that way you have a case if need be. Stay strong and make sure you let someone you trust know that this is happening.
If he hasn’t reached out to you since January I think you’re okay. It was smart of you to block him and change your number. If you feel nervous maybe consider informing your friends and share your location with them so someone you trust always knows where you are if anything was to happen. This guy seemed immature and you made the right choice by cutting him off. In the meantime, I would gather screenshots and all evidence of anything threatening he’s said to you just in case he does try something, that way you have a case if need be. Stay strong and make sure you let someone you trust know that this is happening.
If the guy doesn't appreciate you for who you are and has broken your trust multiple times and keep apologizing in such a way it's not a healthy relationship to even have and his sex drive is just smth guys will have but it his sole intension is just to get your pregnant is probably a reason for him to marry you and chances is he doesn't love u dear and more of a sex object to him u deserve better someone who appreciates you for who you are and doesn't judge you have a good life ahead and find someone who loves you dearly