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New Relationship struggle

User Profile: jillybean007
jillybean007 April 6th, 2021

Hi All... firstly thanks for reading... I'm a little lost at what to do so looking for some outside perspective!

ive been seeing a woman for the last few months, going great we really like each other... then couple weeks ago she messaged me to say I deserve to be with someone who can make time for me, treat me the way I deserve and she was only half into the relationship and the other half was worrying about how she wasn't all in and how awful that is for me...... This amazing woman has divulged she has depression and although really likes me feels she can't cope in a relationship and all she can offer me is friendship clearly the stress of being in a relationship is too much for her.... I've given her space across the last couple weeks but I miss her, like really miss her, I want to reach out but don't know how as to not cause her more stress.... I want to be there for her in any capacity I can.... I certainly don't want any pressure put on her but really want her to know I'm here, I want to support her etc..

I suffer Anxiety and I'm highly functional - so over think absolutely everything from conversations, to text messages, to what have I find to out this lovely lady off... I'm at war with myself at the moment...

Any guidance would be hugely appreciated... I'm in turmoil...

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User Profile: affectionateNest5633
affectionateNest5633 April 7th, 2021

I would say take some time to relax and talk to her. If she needs a friend tell her you’ll be there. Show her that she can rely on you regardless of what the relationship is. In time she will see how much you value her and hopefully you two can go forward. But backing away completely wont help anything.

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User Profile: jillybean007
jillybean007 OP April 8th, 2021

Thank you... I just don’t know how to message or what to say without sounding like an idiot! I’m sure I’ll work it out and you are right backing off completely is certainly not the intention... Thank you once again

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