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Relationship anxiety

User Profile: FierySalad
FierySalad February 21st, 2022

About a year ago, I got out of a toxic relationship with someone. I’ll call him J for short. J used to do things that didn’t make me feel good. He would make me feel bad about myself physically any emotionally. He quit putting effort into our relationship after a few months. He even lied about loving me. He was pretty awful. I was pretty messed up after the breakup and when the truth came out. I’m much better than I was a year ago, but there is some anxiety left behind from that situation. I’m now in a new relationship with someone who is so much better. Even from the relatively short amount of time I’ve been with him (we’ll call him B for short), I’ve been able to tell that he’s kinder and a better fit. He’s very kind and he wouldn’t deliberately do anything to hurt me, unlike J. B is very open to communication and listening, unlike J. Even though there are countless things that prove that B is not like J, I still get worried that he’ll do the same things that J did. I know it’s not true, but my brain keeps bringing me to that fear. Are there any ways I can alleviate my anxiety?

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User Profile: WenChel18
WenChel18 February 22nd, 2022

@FierySalad

Hi @FierySalad, I understand that had been traumatized with J. But now you are with B, always think of the positive, as you said B is not like J. Trust on that. Choose to be happy and Never let yourself bothered you of the Past.

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User Profile: FierySalad
FierySalad OP February 22nd, 2022

You’re absolutely right. It’s difficult to do that, but I’ve been trying my best! Thank you

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User Profile: WenChel18
WenChel18 February 22nd, 2022

@FierySalad

Yes you can do it! I know its now easy. But you will get there. Happiness is a Choice.

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