Relationship problems
Hi so this is hard to share. My bf is very sexual and wants to have sex all of the time. I have caught him watching porn multiple times by looking at his search history and he told me he would quit and I thought he was serious this time, last night I got on his phone to search his search history because I was curious and I found searches along the lines of “step sis” “nymphos” and “blonde bjs” I am really insecure about blonde women and am worried I can never give him enough sex ever. I’m also worried he’s going to cheat on me because his sexual urges and needs, can someone please reassure me and let me know what I should do? I already told him if he looks it up again I want him to see a therapist or else we’re breaking up but I feel like he’s just gonna try and hide it more now. Thanks
Your concerns are definitely very valid. I think your best course of action right now would be to sit down and have the conversation with him. Tell him your concerns, why you feel the way you do, and what he could do to help you feel better. On the other end this is a time where you should allow him to verbally express his needs to you as well. Hear him out and maybe try and come to some sort of compromise in regard to the desires of both of you. If he hides it from you even after having this conversation you should definitely stand your ground on what you feel is right to do. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it’s definitely a hard and at times an awkward topic to deal with. Best of luck to you! Update the forum afterwards to give an update if you feel up to it!
I’m sorry that we have to deal with this issue at all. Unfortunately I am dealing with sorta the same issue as well my husband of four years has been secretly looking at other media’s of porn and I found he recently had hundreds of pictures of naked women on his phone and we recently agreed to work it out but today he was ignoring and last night he said he wanted to push me really hard when I bent over to pick up a candy dish he knocked of the desk. I asked him yesterday to delete all the picture I should be the only woman in his eye and heart, mind. I love him dearly and after six years of my life I gave him 100 % and now I am being pushed aside and for what a picture. What is the answer I haven’t done anything to be treated like this. The mental abuse is too much.
This problem is typical of guys. I myself have come across this but in another type of relationship. I can say that it is impossible to fix it. If you come across this type of guy, then you either put up with it or leave. I agree that this is disrespectful. It's easier for me to part and find a new partner.