Sexual things really bug me, help? (Its a bit of a story so hear me out please?)
So when I first got with my fiance, he had been in some troubling relationships and didnt understand what a healthy relationship was.. Because of this, he thought it was normal to look at a bunch of porn type stuff and even send it to me. Lets just say it took him a very long time to understand his mistakes and fully stop. Now, whenever we see cartoons or shows or games that have girls that are in bikinis or showing too much skin, i freak out. It feels almost like betrayal to me because he used to be so disrespectful to me before. He said he wants to watch anime again but anime has so much fan service and stuff like that.. It kills me.. What do i do to get over how much this hurts me?
How did he disrespected you? You can't really change his need to watch porn or animes or to not look away. I think what you might need from him is that he gives you the feeling that you're enough to satisfy his needs. What I would suggest you, every time you feel this way is to look at him or try to think about how much he loves you. I looked at my boyfriend every time these scenes came, so now he started to look at me every time it happens. Jealousy is very unattractive. You should still tell him at least once how you feel about all this, but it might leds to a fight if he's not willing to understand your position. For me it helps the most to think about how my boyfriend assured me that I'm enough and that he only wants me.
@Strawbunnii,
have a look at this link:
https://www.verywellmind.com/before-ending-your-marriage-over-porn-2303585
